Monday, April 21, 2014

Checking in.





Outfit Details:
vintage sweater
vintage Levis
Seychelles Shenanigans ankle boots
Coach Borough Bag
Miu Miu round sunglasses (25% off with FRNFAM)
MAC Russian Red lipstick


I'm currently in North Carolina with no internet connection, and I'm sitting in a parking lot and borrowing internet from a coffee shop just so I can quickly update you on where I've been, why I've been gone, and why I'm not answering emails right away.

It's crazy to think that these photos were taken on our trip back from Florida, mere weeks ago. We went down to help Bobby's mom prepare for her move to North Carolina. Linda kissed me on the cheek when we said goodbye, and I told her we would see her in less than a few weeks, when we would be driving down to North Carolina to see her. Just days before our intended arrival, she passed away. That was just about a week ago.

It wasn't unexpected, though it was sooner than we anticipated - and there's nothing in the world that can prepare you for the loss of a loved one. Nothing. As I'm surrounded by Bobby, his brother, and their extended family - at times, I feel as though I don't have a right to be as affected as I am (and this is entirely self imposed, as their family is the most welcoming, loving family you could ever imagine). But Linda was truly special to me, and entirely one of a kind. She treated me like a daughter before Bobby and I were even a couple - even as his best friend, I was embraced as one of the family. And when my family or even my friends came around, they were immediately treated like family, too. Even when Bobby wasn't around, I'd swing by the house on a drive home or stay the night and catch up with Linda and Bob, the dogs and the horses. She would always write me little notes and leave them on my windshield or under the door, with a beautiful sketch of a horse or a unicorn. Always.

It's been a tough year. We've seemingly been grieving the loss of our loved ones more often than not. But being together with the family has been a wonderful, healing experience for everyone - and I'm more grateful than ever that Bobby and I have each other, and that we have our siblings to lean on, too. 


40 comments:

  1. So sorry for you and Bobby's loss. Know that you are in all of our thoughts and prayers. As long as you all have each other you can overcome anything. It's never easy saying goodbye but she will always be there to watch over you all. Take care and sending you both all the best <3

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  2. So sorry for your loss! It gets better I promise. On a brighter note...such amazing pics! love the location and look!


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  3. I am so sorry for all of your losses this past year. Sending lots of love!

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  4. I'm sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to both of your families.

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  5. So sorry for your loss. I know it's tough but you have a good support network
    Love and hugs xo

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  6. I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and Bobby's family right now.

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  7. Sending love and good vibes to you and Bobby.

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  8. Sending you and Bobby, and all the family all my condolences; you are in my thoughts. Much, much love.

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  9. Sending loads of positive thoughts & vibes to you and Bobby, she sounds like she was an incredible woman!

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  10. Thoughts and positive vibes coming your way! Loss is the hardest part of life.
    <3 <3

    dani
    www.shopdisowned.com
    http://blog.shopdisowned.com

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  11. So sorry to hear this :( My condolences... Unfortunately, sometimes losses are in another hand our wins.
    You always loose something or somebody, but you gain so much in another way. You learn so much about life, how nothing is ever sure and that we should never take moments or people for granted.
    Take care and stay strong!

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  12. So much love being sent to you and Bobby and your families.

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  13. I'm so sorry for Bobby and yours lost. My thoughts are with you guys.

    <3
    heather
    fashionistanygirl.com

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  14. thank you for sharing. you're a beautiful, graceful, inspiring person. it's so amazing to be able to exchange with each other the way we do now in 2014, to experience life together, the things we all have in common, the loves we all know. I am sorry you lost someone, but glad we your followers have all gained someone through your site and blog. thanks again for every post.

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  15. sending you and bobby my love.
    so sorry, friends.
    xoxo

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  16. I am so sorry for your loss, I just lost my mom in January and it's so so hard, hard in ways you never dreamed of. Sending you all my love.

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  17. Wow I love these photos, sorry for your loss and I hope your year cheers up soon <3

    The Quirky Queer

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  18. so sorry for your loss :(
    xo,
    Yaudy
    http://yaudycristinafashionista.blogspot.com/

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  19. This is one of my favorite outfit shoots of you, ever, but it would be insensitive to simply say that without acknowledging your words. I'm so sorry for your and Bobby's loss, but it sounds like she had a good life and was a wonderful person. It is always better (at least for me) knowing that someone is no longer in pain, even though it is hard to part with them. Thank you so much for sharing with us and being vulnerable on your blog.

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  20. I am so sorry for your loss. You are very brave to share this with us and I thank you for not making your blog just another fashion blog with pink sparkles, but an honest, beautiful place that reflects your personality.

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  21. I'm so sorry for your loss, sending lots of love and hugs to you and Bobby

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  22. I'm so sorry. Sending love to you guys at this difficult time.

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  23. So sorry for your loss. Sending you and Bobby good thoughts.

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  24. I'm so sorry to hear this, she sounded like an amazing person and what you described sound like great memories. Thinking of you and bobby
    Xo Dana
    thewonderforest.com

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  25. We never expect these kinda things, unfortunately, nobody's forever, and we lose the ones we love... I'm really sorry for your loss.
    Sending lots of positive vibrations for you and your family! She is guiding you from wherever she is.
    Xo Evv.

    Lovely Evv

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  26. i'm so sorry... will be keeping you and bobby in my prayers.

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  27. im really sorry for what has happened to you and specially bobby. i know the feeling of loosing someone
    who is like a mother to you. but atleast you know or i hope you believe that she is in a better place now. ofcourse it would have been better if she had remained here. little by little things will get better but atleast you have alot of happy memories with her whie she was alive and she didnt leave without knowing how much you all loved and appreciated her.
    my prayers go out to your family<3

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  28. So sorry to hear about your loss. This post is such a lovely tribute. My thoughts are with you and Bobby <3

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  29. What a difficult time. Even if you know it's coming at some point, it doesn't make the loss any less painful. Keeping you, Bobby, and all the family in my prayers.

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  30. I am so, so sorry for the loss of Bobby's mother. My thoughts are with you all. Sending love xo

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  31. really sorry to hear the loss..this is heart-breaking news.please stay strong.

    xo josephine
    www.joselovincolors.com

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  32. Any loss is always hard but the unexpected loss of a (young) mother/father is almost unbearable at times. I lost my other at age 50 unexpectedly and was very grateful for surrounding family and friends. Please surround yourself with those you love and who love you. This will get better. My thoughts are with you both.

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  33. Keep your head up. Stick together and just let yourselves feel whatever you need to. Cry, laugh, everything is okay. Sending all my love <3

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  34. You are so brave for sharing this. Pouring your heart & soul out in this post... It's truly touching & inspiring. & I am greatly sorry for your loss.

    <3 Carsla
    Founder & CEO of Connect-the-Cloths
    www.connect-the-cloths.com
    http://blogspotter.co/connect-the-cloths/
    A stylist, foodie, & writer's blog in development.

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  35. I feel your pain. My mother-in-law passed away unexpectedly last month. Wether it's excected or not doesnt really matter. Tere is no good way. My heart goes out to you and Bobby and your families.

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  36. I send you and Bobby's family all my love and strength. I hope you find peace and happyness in this sad momeno.

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  37. Your handbag is great! Such a fabulous color!
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