Wednesday, October 23, 2013

About Time

Bobby and me, throughout the years.

I recently had the pleasure of attending a screening of About Time, a film from the creator of Love Actually, Notting Hill, and Four Weddings and a Funeral (you can view the trailer here). They asked me to share my thoughts about the film, and though I'm hardly a critic, I do love to share stories and personal anecdotes (and go off on unnecessary tangents). Especially late at night, when my mind is going a mile a minute - and that's precisely my current situation. I promise not to ruin anything with spoilers.

I don't often find myself at the movies, but when I go, I usually go alone. I've quashed the idea of hanging out with friends at the movies, since time in the dark with no conversation seemed like a waste of worthy companionship. It was best saved for first dates, I told myself, to give reprieve from stumbling around awkward small talk and indulge in a much needed box of candy. And clearly, those days of first dates are over. 

But really, it isn't that I'm actually against movie nights - it's more of an excuse to go it alone. Every once in a while, I do just that. As I walked out of About Time, mascara running down my face, I remembered why: because I'm a sobbing mess at the drop of a hat, and I'm a closet romantic who's keen on staying that way. Sometimes a mildly misanthropic and utterly pessimistic one, but still. Romance makes me really jittery and uncomfortable - especially when I'm in social situations - but that doesn't mean I'm not rooting for it. After all, I am in a relationship, and if that's not a rom-com miracle, I don't know what is. I may not be the typical female lead but I am clumsy as all get out, and if I know anything about romantic comedies, that's half the battle. 

I wasn't entirely sure what to expect when I read that it was about a guy who used his time traveling capabilities to find love and fix any missteps, and I'm glad that I went into it without a clue. As it turns out, this wasn't your usual saccharine, sappy, romance - and it wasn't a campy, over the top comedy, either. It's a feel-good story about love, yes, but it's the love between Tim and his exceedingly charming family that had me both in stitches and tears. (Side note: when Tim introduced his little sister with the line, "She was to me, and still is, the most wonderful thing in the world," I knew I was at my kind of movie, because I'm pretty sure I've said the same thing about Tessa.) In fact, if I had two words to describe About Time, it would be "absolutely charming." And if there was one thing I took away from the movie, it's the lesson that love doesn't have to be over the top in grandeur, and it doesn't have to be perfect. In the beginning, he relives everything until its perfect, but eventually learns that life is worth leaving as it is, even with all of its flaws. In fact, it's the missteps, the imperfections, and even the tragedies that make the good things that much sweeter - and they also make the best stories.

When I look back at my past courtships, they're rife with embarrassment that was made for the movies. I once met a guy's family and then realized my dress was both backwards and inside out (don't ask), walked into a pole and knocked over a trashcan in one step right in front of my high school crush, and even had a first date quite literally run away from me and leave me standing, bewildered.* I always said the wrong things, made the wrong moves, and generally made a fool of myself. At the time, they were all humiliating situations that felt like total life ruiners, but now they're my favorite stories to tell. I wouldn't want to relive them, mind you, but I also wouldn't change them for the world, even if I had the gift of time travel. Without all of the palm-to-forehead moments that left me bright red and mortified, hiding under the covers, I wouldn't have started my Open Diary, which led to LiveJournal, which led to this blog. And there would be no Bobby, the boy that many all have come to know through pictures and stories, because believe it or not, our beginning was just as awkward and bumpy as any other. I wouldn't have it any other way.



p.s. One thing I will gladly relive (see how I brought it full circle?) is the opportunity to see About Time again, and I might even make it a group outing. It comes out on November 8th (select theaters November 1st), so let's stock our bags with tissues and candy contraband and make a night of it.

*One day, when I'm feeling particularly nostalgic, I'll share the full stories, and one of you will write a blockbuster script whose leading lady has an eerily similar montage of awkward encounters...and I'll know. We'll all know. 

62 comments:

  1. You are making me want to see this! I am a closet romantic too.

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  2. I obviously love your outfit posts, but it's such a treat to get to read a little more of your writing here. " but I am clumsy as all get out, and if I know anything about romantic comedies, that's half the battle." made me chuckle out loud.
    Also, not that it's important but it bears mentioning that you and Bobby are an astonishingly good-looking pair!

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    1. Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it. I try to keep things light, for the most part - I realized a long time ago that most people don't like to read, they just want to look at the pictures. But I love to write, so I have to get it out, now and then!

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  3. I'm such a closet romantic. I go to great lengths to conceal it.
    Great post!

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    1. Glad I'm not the only one. I feel like I still have a little bit of that "boys have cooties" mentality left over from when I was little.

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  4. I have to check if the film is been launched in Spain, you make me wanna see it !!


    XX Luba

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    1. It hasn't been released yet, but it will be out soon!

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    2. In Austria is also film launched, Im gonna see it!

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  5. Absolutely adoring this review! What a heartfelt commentary. I'm all about those feel good films, and Love Actually is one of my favorites. Now I know I have to catch this film in theaters for sure. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. So happy you enjoyed it - thank you! Please let me know what you think of the movie.

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  6. ^_^ I actually enjoy when You put in those not-only-outfit posts out there! And Your photos with Your man made Me feel all fuzzy inside. I love to see happy couples, and I am an outrageous romantic :/ which I don't try to hide but just don't notice that I am... I think it's partly (no, GREATLY) cause of those novels I grew up reading... unrealistic expectations really, hehe...
    I was thinking of this same thing the other day, that all the "mistakes" and the things I hated for happening lead Me straight to where I am today :)... Weird life, it is!
    Loads of love, SJay
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    1. I never considered myself to be of the "everything happens for a reason" school of thought, but I do think it helps shape who we are, today. So in a sense, I guess I am. It all has a purpose.

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  7. Seeing you happy couple is a wonderful confirmation for me again that real love is possible - fortunately I´m also in love to my lovely husband since a very long time <3

    Wish you only the best - thanks for sharing this wonderful post!

    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

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  8. Open Diary! ha! I remember that one. Wow...
    It's been really cool seeing photos of you and Bobby through the years. :)

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    1. Roxy aka grrfeisty, one of the OGs. ;)

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  9. I love this post. It's so nice to hear that even awkward people find love. Hopefully that will include me, some day, too. :)

    Shani x
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    1. You will! And those who don't find love, they find cats - and that's pretty much the same thing. I'm kidding, of course;)

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  10. You are such an amazing couple, so cute! ♥
    xx

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  11. Great post! I've always been a hopeless romantic too and love these kinds of movies. :) I can't wait to see "About Time"!
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  12. Not gonna lie, at first glace the title of this post + the photo made me think this was an engagement announcement! Hahah I got all excited. (AHEM Bobby--get on it!!) ;)

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    1. Haha, sorry. But noooo, I'm not ready for that! Marriage still gives me the willies.

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  13. That's actually refreshing to hear. I get worried about not wanting to get married and having society pressure for it at the same time.

    Anyhoo, you guys are adorable! xo

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  14. I'd read a book by you. Loved this.

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  15. I remember when I first found you on LiveJournal and sort of silently read, leaving a comment every once in a blue moon. To see how your blog has unfolded now and see how your relationship with Bobby has developed makes me feel weird for being such a creeper on your life, but also it's kinda cool that you've shared all of this with so many people. You guys are a great pair! (and I think we all may have ridiculous dating stories to tell...)

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    1. Thank you! I remember meeting one girl whose blog I admired since the LJ days and I felt so creepy, knowing that I saw her relationship develop and her wedding pictures years before I met her. But really, that's the name of the game...and it's kind of neat to follow along throughout the years.

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  16. I would love to read the full stories in all their awkward glory if you ever get inspired to share with us! Thanks for this post Keiko - it's so nice to get a different glimpse into your life every once in a while. I've been reading your blog for years, and I always love when you write such heartfelt posts!

    PS, now I'm dying to see the movie!

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    1. Definitely see the movie. I want to know how everyone likes it! And I will definitely share more stories. Since my blog became more public, I was hesitant to share, in case any of the guys ever came across it. But I think leaving the names out will do just fine, since most of these stories are from yearrrrs ago.

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  17. Really want to see that movie!

    You and Bobby make such a cute couple!
    <3

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  18. That's a movie I've been waiting to come out!

    xo Jennifer

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  19. I saw the movie last night in LA and loved it as well. It was so funny and heart warming and lovely. I know I'll be seeing it again.

    I hope you'll share some of your dating stories with us!

    I enjoyed seeing older photos of you and Bobby. You always seem to have such bold makeup & style these days but I liked seeing a more natural look and casual style on you. :)

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    1. Glad you enjoyed! I will definitely share more dating stories, soon:)

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  20. So sweet seeing all these photographs of the two of you! My husband is a total cheesy romantic and I get totally embarrassed being outwardly romantic. But I really am a sucker for it in the movies, especially when I see heartfelt father/daughter relationships or brother/sister relationships. Nothing sweeter! Love is such a special thing...

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    1. The relationships between family members always kill me! I'm a sucker for those.

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  21. Aww, how sweet! You two are adorable :)

    -Jen

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  22. It was released in the UK a few months ago and my husband and I watched it together and we both loved it! I loved the idea that he could travel in time and re-do all of the award moments.I think the last scene with Bill Nighy in it almost made my husband cry.

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    1. Bill Nighy was, by far, my favorite person in the film. Overload of charm - I wanted him to be my father.

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  23. Wow, I love this post! You are so open and honest about your love life and past with boys, it's so wonderful!

    Xo, Hannah

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  24. Thanks for this review. My family loved Love Actually, Notting Hill, and Four Weddings and a Funeral and my husband quotes from Notting Hill all the time, so I think we're going to love this movie too! You're cute and so are your stories, most important thing is that you can laugh at life and yourself! Enjoy your life!

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    1. I hope you love it! It's really cute.

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  25. ahh! when i saw that this post was entitled "about time" and that there was a collage of you and bobby, my mind instantly went to "THEY GOT ENGAGED". total disappointment.

    (you two are so cute! way to be a tease ;)

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    1. Craaaap I didn't even think about that. Sorry to be a tease!

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  26. THAT'S WHAT I DID!!!!! ^^^ SO DISAPPOINTED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. I am so sorry! I didn't mean to trick anyone, I promise!

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  27. i'm so looking forward to this movie, definitely going to check it out once it's out :)
    xo, cheyenne

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  28. these are the sweetest, love you two together! I'm such a sucker for romance, just not in the traditional sense I suppose..but I sure like to see it in the movies. I always want to hear more about the guy that ran away. I'm sure he just couldn't take in all that beauty, or you didn't notice..the vampire standing right behind you!

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    1. Definitely something about vampires. Haha, the story is pretty funny. One day I will share!

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  29. Lovely story, you make me cry.
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  31. I love this movie :) It was released in the UK last month and it made me cry too. Such a charming film.
    Rosie x | Every Word Handwritten

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    1. You lucky ducks got it a month early! I am already planning on seeing it again.

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  32. I love your writing style. You are incredibly talented (and relatable... SO relatable).

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    1. Thank you so much. Those are two of the best compliments I could ask for (on writing and being relatable). Seriously, thank you!

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