Thursday, July 7, 2011

What makes love true







Outfit Details:
Joie silk blouse - c/o Joie
lace skirt - c/o Spotted Moth
belt - thrifted
shoes - Beacon's Closet
vintage bag - Hourglass Consignment
twist key necklace - c/o Tiffany & Co., in celebration of their microsite, What Makes Love True

Bobby is wearing: Urban Outfitters hat and Benjamin shirt by Fischer

There is no authority on love. Love is such an intimate notion and to be in love is beyond description. Or, at least, it is for me. I've been in love a handful of times - truly - and I'll never discredit those that didn't last. Once you're in love, it's difficult to admit to yourself that you can ever fall out of it. It's right and then...it's just wrong. From the four year relationship that ran its course to the whirlwind romance that crashed and burned, I've become the person I am today - and I've learned when to love and when to let go. That is never lost on me.

When Tiffany & Co. sent me this beautiful necklace with the thought provoking question, "What makes love true?" I immediately thought, "Love is whatever you make of it." That might sound like a cop out, and maybe it is. But each time I fell in love, it felt completely different. That doesn't make it any less real. What makes love true and long-lasting is all in how you maintain it, and that requires balance and resilience. And if you're dating me, patience - lots of patience.

I'm a fiery person. I can be tempestuous and lose my temper rather quickly, and I'm extremely stubborn. I need someone who balances me out and keeps me grounded, yet lets me express myself. He needs to accept that I'm going to get riled up every now and then, but not let me get out of control. And maybe bring me back down to earth with a soothing voice and some breathing exercises, if necessary (I'm only kind of joking). More than anything, I need someone who will stick around when things get tough, and I need to want to stick around, too...and be the voice of reason when he needs it.
 
People don't often tell you how much maintenance a relationship requires, but know this: there will be rough patches. You need to know when to pick yourselves up and dust each other off and when to let go - and grudges are out of the question. Bobby and I have had our rough patches in the past, but after eight years of friendship and three years of living together, we know how to handle what comes our way. Despite all of my faults, he never gave up on me. And just so you know (because I'm painting myself to be a crazy person with a perfect counterpart), he has his [very minor] faults, too. The goshdarn boy can't seem to go one day without accidentally throwing away something really important.


Oh, and one other thing that makes love true? Mutual adoration for my animals. Obviously!

To see more thoughts on what makes love true from fellow bloggers, check out the slideshow on stylelist.

94 comments:

  1. So cute ! Love the skirt ! And the dog... <3 !!!








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  2. This outfit is wonderful! xxx

    Laura
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  3. Very cute! ^^ love the bag:)

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  4. i absolutely LOVE this post. :) it is so cute. :) GREAT BLOG! absolutely LOVE it! you are so inspirational! and in the mood for some eyecandy? have i got a treat for you! check out my most recent post.

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  5. what a lovely post :) it warmed my heart.

    and *beautiful* necklace. lucky girl :)

    xx
    ~chantilly

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  6. Wow! I love everything about your outfit! Especially the purse...so unique! Loved the post too! Very well said.

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  7. such a wonderful and honest description of love. thanks for the great post :)

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  8. This outfit is perfect and so well put together. The necklace and the bag are beautiful and the skirt and the top.... Oh I want it all.

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    xx

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  9. true love is when you feel like your on a cloud even on bad days<3

    what a cute set of photos and incorporating your bf and dog love it! looks like your hair is lighter?

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  10. This is so classic, but yet modern and first of all, inspirational :)

    XO,
    Lucija

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  11. so true and so cute. i couldnt have said it better myself :)

    <3 steffy
    Steffys Pros and Cons

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  12. You guys are adorable, and so is your outfit! I absolutely love the romantic colors. That skirt is beautiful and your vintage bag is so unique and cool. Great key necklace as well!

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  13. Elysia: I haven't colored it in over a year, but maybe the sun is making it a little lighter?

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  14. you guys are very blessed to have each other! love your skirt too, friend!!

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  15. magical
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  16. Gosh I feel like you could be writing about me here! My man and I have had a running joke since we watched x-men, that his mutant power is never-end patience, and that mine is rashness and moodiness. hmmmm....!

    I love your honesty - it is so refreshing after the bazillions of cliches we run into every day!

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  17. love it! your blouse is beautiful!

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  18. I love your outfit!! That bag is darling!!

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  19. This is such a cute post. I like that you're honest about relationships and the hard work that goes into them, but also cherish the small things that make them great. And for the style part, I'm dying over the bag and the color palette is such a good combination!

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  20. this is so cute and special! Thanks for sharing :)
    Now that I've found someone so special in my life, I can appreciate things and feel more hopeful :)

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  21. STUNNING!!! I wish Tiffany would just send me things in the mail..that would be pretty spectacular! Lucky you :)

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  22. Keiko, this post is so wonderful and relatable. I too am tempestrous and lose my temper quickly. My beau on the other hand is so patient and loving. I think it's true that each individual in the relationship should be able to balance each other out. Thank you so much for sharing a part of your relationship with us. :-)

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  23. Beautiful. Love the post too and what I like the most that your honey's name is Bobby and so is my fiance!

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  24. wise words, and so relatable:)

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  25. loved this post!
    you two are so cute.
    what you described sounds like me and my husband.
    i am very very stubborn & he is very laid-back. drive me bonkers sometimes.. ;)

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  26. Sentiments are so very true. I love how you do your tousled bun, it's so perfect not too messy and still ladylike.

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  27. Love this. Especially the Tapestry bag.

    C x
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  28. Gorgeous outfit! Neutral but anything but boring. I love your purse too- it's so unique!

    Lindsey Turner
    http://thirftandshout.blogspot.com

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  29. Gorgeous!!
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  30. You two are so adorable! I could definitely take some lessons from the two of you on how to make relationships work. Let's just say I'm not great at the whole relationship thing ha ha.

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  31. this is such a sweet a post. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on love because I can relate to almost all of it! it's nice to hear that other couples who really are in very much in love with eachother go through rough patches. as perfect as some couples are for eachother, sometimes times are just hard. but it makes your relationship that much stronger and appreciation for the other so much greater. thanks for these thoughts, and cute outfit!

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  32. What a wonderful post, and you're so lovely when you smile!

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  33. I'm so glad that you and Bobby complement each other and help each grow and stay grounded. You look so ladylike and that necklace is such a lovely keepsake.

    ♥, Jamie
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  34. Love the whole outfit!! Cute doggie and VERY cute boyfriend lol :)

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  35. Beautiful post!

    Kisses from Hong Kong,
    Nicole

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  36. such a sweet, and indeed very true insight into love.

    i'm currently in a very long distance relationship and these words are so touching, & hit very close to home. thanx for sharing!

    jenny
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  37. I couldn't agree with you more on your words on love. I really like this post of yours :)

    PS. Love the shoes!!

    Julia
    Cup of Tea
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  38. I love that bag!

    ...and you're right, the maintenance is key...it doesn't stay all butterflies and make out sessions forever, eventually it changes, and I think that's when a lot people move on, but what it changes into is truly something better! My partner, James and I are completely secure in who we are individually, and who we are together....we are like home to each other and accept everything about one another. There is no hiding, no pretending, just us being us and working through everything that comes our way, together.

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  39. A necklace from Tiffany?? FABULOUS! I love the skirt..the bag..the WHOLE thing!

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  40. I love this post. I'm very similar and it was good to hear someone likeminded saying "hang in there".

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  41. very well said. posts like these make me so happy, so thank you.

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  42. I love EVERYTHING about this outfit! Perfection! You are such an inspiration to me, how you balance every outfit, and have such an eye for which pieces go together. That is definitely NOT something I am talented at...

    Your blog is a joy to visit!

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  43. that's so true and beautiful, i looooove your blog and read it all the time

    kisses

    Paula

    dreambigdohuge.blogspot.com

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  44. I love when you write about you and Bobby! I remember from your LJ days how you and Bobby were the perfect companions, and when I found out you guys started dating I was absolutely ecstatic! You guys just seem so amazing together.

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  45. Love the lace skirt and really the whole outfit! So romantic and sweet, just like your post! Thoughtful, honest, and no nonsense. Keep up the great work!

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  46. That bag is gorgeous! And those shoes...to die for! xo

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  47. Beautiful ;)))


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  48. what is the lip color you're wearing? it looks like the perfect color for very skin tone year round!

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  49. You look fantastic, I am delighted !!

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  50. i am in love with your outfit here. everything about it is just so entirely lovely. the question "what makes true love" is quite an interesting one.

    oh and, "People don't often tell you how much maintenance a relationship requires, but know this: there will be rough patches. You need to know when to pick yourselves up and dust each other off and when to let go - and grudges are out of the question." this is so entirely true.

    relationships take work. no one ever really tells you that, and movies definitely make love seem like one continuous relationship of lust, romance, and burning passion. i think sometimes the true measure of love and a solid and meaningful relationship is actually the work you must put into it, and the outcome of that work - if you really love someone, you will work through the hard times, bcos there WILL be hard times. and if you can get through it, i think that says so much.

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  51. cute photo and lovely look!
    this bag is great!

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  52. The colours in your outfit are lovely ! Really lovely words in this post too !

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  53. so romantic :)
    Great look :)
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  54. Came across your blog by accident and i gotta say, i love it! You look soo pretty and love your style:D

    I have to say, this is a great post. I just broke up with my ex not long ago so i really felt it when u wrote this post. Thx for the reminder about love! :D Good to see u got such a caring boo:)

    Cinz
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  55. and forgot to mention, that tiffany key necklace is to die for! I been wanting one too but been kinda broke lately! lol

    The gold suits u a lot!

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  56. beautiful photos and necklace :)
    great message

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  57. Cette jupe est vraiment belle,
    un look rétro très sympa :)

    Alizée
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  58. This vintage outfit is adorable ! Love your shoes !

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  62. This is by far my FAVORITE post from you. I can easily tell you and Bobby have a wonderful relationship, and I hope that lasts forever. You both make such a sweet couple.

    Love the top and lace skirt!

    PS. Mutual adoration of animals is a must. We have 2 pups, adding on another one soon. 3 more at his mother's house that we often "steal." :]

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  63. Great outfit, lovely post. I, too, would love to know what your lip color is--I was so hoping you'd list it like you sometimes do!

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  64. Such Honesty about Love, that's really what a healthy relationship requires, right! I agree we can fall in love so easily but maintaining it that's where your true character comes into play :) And I really love that purse!!!

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  65. I just love this post! Thanks for sharing! Also, those shoes are so so so cute!

    xoxo Denise

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  66. Beautiful description of love! <3 You guys are too adorable! :D

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  67. I adore this! One of my favorite color combos and the makeup works perfectly with the neutrals. This skirt and slouchy silk blouse are amazing together, love the mixed textures! Luke and I are the same way..I would describe myself as whimsical/emotional,he's more practical/stoic. I think you two are the perfect complements and you balance each other out. We've been together 5 yrs and are coming up on our 3 yr wedding anniversary! I keep my things in an "organized mess" and he's always throwing some post office receipt or important invoice away haha

    Krystle
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  68. OMG! Adorable, the bag is my fav. I want the skirt! I love the frames in the first post!Sorry to adore pretty much everything! :)

    New follower!

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  69. So so cute, love this skirt
    Really love your blog
    Bisous bisous
    Yuli

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  70. This really is a beautiful post and what you're saying is so true!

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  71. sam gave me a bunch of shit for not choosing a more expensive piece. haha. and he threw away one of my lula magazines one time and i wouldn't speak to him for hours.

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  72. Love love love the shoes! Great pics.

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  73. What a gorgeous outfit -- so light and airy! And that Tiffany necklace is really, really pretty.

    x Hilary
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  74. I adore your shoes!! Such a great look!

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  75. Keiko, so eloquent. You write so beautifully! Smart and beautiful. Dawn Suitcase Vignettes xo

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  76. love your skirt, so pretty

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  77. Love this post. Love is so important in life. True love only comes with mutual respect, adoration and the ability to step back and allow the other person to achieve their dreams and to flourish as an individual while growing as a couple. I have been told that my husband and I balance each other out. Two halves of a perfect whole and without the other one of us will lack. Mae xx

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  78. I love the outfit! The skirt is fabulous!

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  79. My boyfriend and I of 2.5 years just broke up the other day. And though it was a long time coming, it didn't make it any less severe when he was no longer living in our tiny studio apartment. I've read your blog since the livejournal days (maybe 2002?) and I can't begin to tell you how much this post resonated with me. The love you just described is exactly what I'm looking for! Thanks so much for posting this. Much happiness to you and Bobby (+Miku and kitties)!

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  80. you make a good looking couple

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  81. ya'll are seriously an adorable couple! and it is so nice to see someone take the time to write about how much hard work it takes to keep a relationship really alive (because that is so true), but also how worth it it is.

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  82. I love this outfit, especially the bag. I remember seeing it in another of your outfits awhile back--it's absolutely the best tapestry purse ever.

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  83. Fabulous, Keiko Lynn. Absolutely fabulous. This is a beautiful outfit for you.

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  84. I LOVE that blouse. Such a pretty colour and delicate fabric.

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  85. I love everything about this look, so romantic and innocent. congrats on inking that deal with lenscrafters!

    -Shanny

    truequeen.com

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